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November 26, 2013

Get the “Bottoms Up” Anal Pleasure Kit from Lucky Bloke

Filed under: Toy Reviews — Tags: , , — Charlie @ 12:15 pm

Bottoms Up Kit from Lucky BlokeWhen you’re on the go or on the road, it’s important to have your gear ready. There’s nothing worse than not being able to enjoy a prostate massage simply because you’re out of gloves or lube. And when you want an evening pegging and anal intercourse, you want the best condoms around.

I’ve teamed up with Lucky Bloke to create the “Bottoms Up” Anal Pleasure Kit to make sure you have everything you need to make your backdoor adventures great! Each one includes:

  • Lube samplers: Please Gel, überlube, Sliquid Silk, Pjur Original
  • Condoms: Kimono Thin, Kimono MicroThin Large, Skyn, Skyn Large, Crown Skinless Skin
  • GLYDE Dams Strawberry & Vanilla
  • Intimate wipe from Swipes
  • Two pairs of nitrile gloves

Put one of these in your bag and you’re ready for whatever happens. And at the end of the night, the Swipes Intimate Wipe makes clean-up super easy.

You can get your own Bottoms Up kit at Lucky Bloke for only $18.99. That’s a great deal and it’s sure to make your next night of anal and prostate pleasure even more fun!

Charlie

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I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.

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November 23, 2013

The Pulse Oscillating Vibrator Will Rock Your World

Filed under: Toy Reviews — Tags: , , , — Charlie @ 12:57 pm

Pulse Oscillating StimulatorI get a lot of questions about prostate massage and pegging, and one of the most common is, “what about pleasuring the penis while we’re doing this?” During a prostate massage, some people like to use their other hand for that, though it can be tricky to coordinate everything. And when you’re pegging, you sometimes need both hands to hold yourself up.

A lot of people simply have the receiver stroke his cock, and that’s a really fun way to do it. But if you want to turn things up to 11, you should try the Pulse Oscillating Vibrator.

If you’ve never used a vibrator on your penis, you have no idea what you’re missing. The nerves in the penis are very similar to the nerves in the clitoris, so it makes sense that a lot of men enjoy vibrators, especially around the head. But most vibrators aren’t designed with penises in mind, so they’re either the wrong size, the wrong shape, or both. That’s where the Pulse really stands out.

The coating is silicone, so you can use any water-based or oil-based lubricant with it. Simply lube up your cock and slide it into the toy. The wings are flexible to fit most penises, and it works with a soft and a firm cock, and there are gentle ridges for added stimulation. Inside the toy, there’s a vibrator with nine speeds and it’s built to focus the sensation on the most sensitive area around and under the head of the penis. Most other toys have a low-amplitude vibration, which makes them buzzy or tickly. The Pulse has high-amplitude oscillation that create a deeper sensation that feels amazing.

If you have an erection, you can easily hold the Pulse right where you want it. If your penis is less firm, you can rest the toy on your body and let it cradle your penis. Gripping the wings will squeeze the vibrator against the shaft of your penis for a deeper vibration, or you can simply allow it to vibrate against you for a lighter touch.

However you use it, the Pulse makes prostate play so much easier because it frees things up. During a massage, the giver can easily hold it in place without having to worry about trying to coordinate their different hands. It’s also really simple to use during pegging, in almost any position. The one improvement that I can see would be a way to rest it on the bed so it would stay in place in a rear-entry position.

One of the best things about the Pulse is that it feels amazing no matter how firm your penis is. Since a lot of men find that anal penetration causes their erections to get softer (that may be because the muscular relaxation that allows penetration means less blood is trapped in the penis), the fact that this toy works like that is fantastic. In fact, some users even orgasm and ejaculate with a totally soft penis!

This toy is rechargeable in any USB port and runs for up to two hours, depending on the speed. Since it’s silicone, it’s pretty easy to clean, although you can’t submerge it in water so wiping it down seems like the best bet.

Here’s a short video from the maker, showing some of the other ways to use the Pulse. You can pick one on at sex-positive stores everywhere!

PULSE by Hot Octopuss from Adam Lewis on Vimeo.

Charlie

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I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.

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September 18, 2013

Pegging Tips: The Mustang Silicone Dildo

Filed under: Toy Reviews — Tags: , , , — Charlie @ 1:10 pm

Mustang VixSkin Realistic DildoIf you’re looking for a great dildo for pegging, you should take a look at the Mustang Silicone Dildo by Vixen. It’s an ideal toy for beginners or experienced peggers.

The Mustang is made from VixSkin, which is Vixen’s amazingly realistic silicone formula. The inner core is firm, which gives you the stability you need, while the outer layer has a softer texture. As a result, the toy has a much more life-like feel, especially once it warms to body temperature. The head of the dildo is almost entirely made from the softer silicone, so in addition to being more realistic, it doesn’t poke the way that some toys can.

One thing I like about all of the VixSkin dildos is that they’re a lot more flexible than some other toys. They’re certainly firm enough to make penetration easy, but having a little bend allows you to get into different positions. When dildos are too rigid, a small shift in angle can make them go from “yum” to “ouch.” I like how the VixSkin toys makes it easy to change positions without that happening.

I’m also impressed with how life-life these dildos are. They’re not totally realistic, since they’re uniform in color from base to tip, but when the lights are low, that doesn’t matter so much.

OK, I can hear you asking, how does it feel? The answer is “amazing!” The flexibility makes it comfortable and the firmness is just enough to be able to get good pressure on the prostate. The life-life head is an ideal shape for massaging the prostate, but if the end of the dildo happens to poke into it on the in-stroke, it’s soft enough to not be uncomfortable. All in all, the Mustang feels awesome.

The Mustang is 6.5″ long x 1.5″ across (16.5 cm x 3.8 cm), so it’s a pretty reasonable size, both for the giver and the receiver. And since it’s 100% silicone, it’s non-porous and easy to clean. Just wash it with soap and hot water. If you want to disinfect it, wash it and then put it in boiling water for five minutes or the top rack of a dishwasher. Simple! Plus, it has a round base, so it’ll work with any harness with a ring, though I’m partial to the SpareParts Harnesses for their great fit and fantastic style.

If you’re looking for a new dildo, I really can’t say enough good stuff about the Mustang Silicone Dildo. Pick one up today and see for yourself how great it is!

Charlie

Charlie

I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.

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August 15, 2013

Take Your Prostate Massage To The Next Level With The Aneros Helix Syn

Filed under: Toy Reviews — Tags: , , — Charlie @ 5:38 pm

Helix Syn by AnerosI’ve been a big fan of the Aneros prostate massagers ever since their first products came out. Their unique designs are based on extensive research, and they really know their stuff. But the company isn’t content to rest on their past successes. They keep coming out with new toys.

On the surface, the Helix Syn is similar to the other Aneros prostate massagers. Designed for hands-free use, the toy levers into the prostate with each contraction of the pelvic floor. That means you can use it on its own, or you can combine it with other pleasures, including solo sex, oral play, or intercourse. But the Helix Syn offers amazing options that toys from other companies simply can’t match.

The inner core is rigid, but the outer layer is made from their Velvet Touch Silicone. The combined texture is amazingly similar to the way that a finger feels- firm on the inside, with a softer layer around it. The Helix Syn offers sensations that are more like a massage from a finger than anything else I’ve ever tried.

Take a look at the part of the base that curves upward. It’s meant to rest on the perineum, which creates a levering action when you squeeze the right muscles. (The same muscles that make your erection bounce. They also squeeze during ejaculation.)  What makes that arm different is that it’s flexible, rather than rigid. You might think that that means you’d get less sensation, but if you have well-toned muscles, you’ll have amazing control over how the toy moves.

If you’ve been doing your exercises, you can get the Helix Syn to provide light touch, deeper sensation, or anything in between. You do need to have pretty good muscular control to get the most out of your experience, so if you haven’t been doing your Kegels, you might do better with the MGX Classic. (Here’s my write-up about it.) Keeping your PC muscle in shape with Kegel exercises makes any kind of prostate play a lot more fun, so check out this post for some tips.

One thing- since the Helix Syn is so light and relies on fairly subtle motions, you’ll get more pleasure from it if you aren’t moving around a lot. So if you want to use it during intercourse, it works better if you’re on your back with your partner on top of you. If you’re doing a lot of thrusting, you probably won’t have as much control over how it moves. But it’s really amazing during oral sex or handjobs!

The insertable length is 4 inches (just over 10 com), so it’s the perfect length to reach the prostate. It’s about as wide as a finger, so it’s pretty easy to insert, even if you’re new to prostate play. You can use it with any water-based or oil-based lubricant, but don’t use silicone lubes since some of them bond with silicone toys and ruin them. And clean-up is easy. Just wash it with soap and hot water.

When you’re ready to experience a prostate massage that’ll rock your world, give the Helix Syn a try. It’s one of the most amazing toys I’ve ever used.

Charlie

Charlie

I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.

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July 3, 2013

Troubleshooting Your Pegging Gear

Filed under: Sex Tips,Toy Reviews — Tags: , , , , , , — Charlie @ 4:51 pm

Here’s a question that came in via Facebook:

We need a good harness and dildo. I know there’s issues with dildo materials being toxic, which is why I am hesitant to shop online. If you have recommendations I’d be thrilled.

The other issue I’ve had in the past has been dildo angle. Most harnesses cause a dildo to angle downward. I find this make anal insertion very problematic. A few dildos have an upward bend and this helps, but the harness tends to undo most of this.

Has anyone addressed this with a 45° upward harness? I think this would be a great invention. Most penises tend to angle upward like this; it makes insertion much easier for most positions.

OK, let’s take this one piece at a time. You’re right to be careful about what kinds of toys you use. For a long time, many sex toy manufacturers sold vibrators, dildos, and buttplugs that contained phthalates. These are chemicals that are used to soften plastics and they’re commonly used in shower curtains, linoleum floors, and many other household items. Several years ago, there was some research suggesting that they weren’t safe for use in baby products like teething rings because they caused neurological problems in young rats. This led to some understandable concern within the sex toy world, although the one piece of research that I’m aware of concluded that they are safe for up to one hour of use per day, except for pregnant or nursing women.

Nevertheless, a lot of people were worried about it, which led to some changes in the sex toy industry. Good Vibrations took the lead in discontinuing these products in 2007, and many other companies followed suit. Eventually most toy manufacturers stopped using phthalates, which is why you’ll sometimes see “phthalate-free” on the package.

Having said all that, if you pick a high-quality silicone dildo, like those made by Vixen Creations and Pleasure Works, you don’t need to be worried about it because they don’t use phthalates. Plus, these dildos are non-porous, so they’re easy to clean with soap and water. If you want to take it a step further, wash your dildo and then put it in boiling water for five minutes or the top rack of a dishwasher. (I’m a big fan of the Charm, and not just because I helped design it.)

So once you have a dildo picked out, you need to pick a harness that’ll work. You’re right that the shape of the dildo is important, especially since you’ll find that a curved toy works better for hitting the prostate. But it can be tricky to get the right angle. That’s usually due to the harness not holding the base firmly enough, or because of the angle of the wearer’s pelvis. Let’s take that one at a time.

Ideally, the base of the dildo should be right up against the wearer’s body. That means that you want a harness that’ll fit snugly enough to give solid support. It can be difficult if you like larger toys since the weight of the dildo will tend to pull it down, but you can minimize that if you find a harness with a good fit.

The Velvet Harness is a great one to start with since it’s super adjustable and reasonably priced. Get the base of the dildo on the wearer’s pubic bone. If it’s too low on her body, it’ll hang at the wrong angle. Adjust the waist strap, and then the thigh straps to get it firmly in place.

If you want a harness that looks a bit fancier and feels better for the wearer, try the Joque Harness by SpareParts. The material is softer and the wider waist strap often feels more comfortable. And while this harness rides a bit lower, the fabric is reinforced to minimize drooping. Some folks worry about it not holding the dildo as firmly against the body, but SpareParts does that on purpose because the base of the dildo will press into the clitoris with each thrust. A lot of women discover that they can even orgasm from pegging with one of these. And if you want something with a different look, check out the other gorgeous harnesses they make.

But even with the right harness, a dildo might hang down at a difficult angle. For some women, that’s because of the tilt of their pelvis. If someone’s hips tilt forward, their pubic bone will be pointing at a downward angle, which is going to make it more difficult to keep their dildo pointed upward. Stretching the lower back and strengthening the abs can help, but not for everyone.

The Bump And Grinder silicone dildo is angled upwards, and the base is designed to give extra clitoral stimulation to the wearer. I haven’t spoken to anyone who’s used it, and I’m curious to know if it works as it’s intended. I’d also like to hear about those ridges behind the head.

If your favorite dildo is tricky to get at the right angle, you can also play around with positions to make it easier. If the guy who’s receiving is on his back, put a pillow under his hips to lift his ass up. The Liberator Wedge and Ramp can help. (Here’s my review of them.) And you can also try holding the dildo by hand until it gets inserted, at which point, the receiver’s body will support it.

I hope that helps!

 

Charlie

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I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.

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May 14, 2013

The Aneros Vice Vibrating Silicone Anal Toy Will Rock Your World

Filed under: Toy Reviews — Tags: , , , — Charlie @ 12:43 pm

When you’re ready to experience the ultimate in hands-free prostate pleasure, you don’t need to look any further than the Aneros Vice. This amazing gadget has it all.

As with all of their other products, the folks with Aneros took their time to create something special. Made from body-safe silicone, the Vice is designed to rest comfortably against the prostate. With an insertable length of 4″, it’s long enough to hit the spot without being too big. But what makes the Vice really stand out is the vibrator.

Most anal toys either focus the vibration at the base, where it’s great for anal sensations but not so fun for the prostate, or they’re really buzzy, which can make the prostate tune out. For the Vice, the vibrator is long enough to put the tip right where the prostate is, maximizing your pleasure. And rather than being a buzzy little motor, the vibe is ultra-quiet and offers pulsing vibrations that are much more enjoyable for prostate play. There are three patterns, each of which has three levels of intensity, so you have lots of choices.

Like the rest of the Aneros line, the Vice can be moved by contracting your pelvic floor, so you can lever it into your prostate for a deeper vibration. You can also wear it during sex and every time you thrust or move your hips, it’ll massage your p-spot. It’s an incredible combination that nothing else comes close to.

Since the Vice is made from silicone, it’s super easy to clean. Just slide the vibrator out and wash it with soap and water. The vibe is water-resistant, so you can drop it in the sink, too. And if you want to disinfect the silicone, just wash it and then put it in the top rack of a dishwasher or boiling water for five minutes. It couldn’t be easier.

The only difficulty you might have with the Vice is that pressing the button on the vibe to change speeds can be tricky when there’s lube on it. It’s definitely easier if you wipe any lube off before trying to adjust the setting. I always suggest laying a towel down before prostate play, just to be sure to not get lube on the sheets, so it’s not hard to grab a corner of it.

All in all, the Aneros Vice is a serious winner and there’s nothing else like it. When you’re ready for a toe-curling experience pick one of these up and get ready for a fun ride!

Charlie

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I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.

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May 8, 2013

The Jopen Ego e4: A Fun New Prostate Massager

Filed under: Toy Reviews — Tags: , , , — Charlie @ 11:21 am

Jopen Ego e4 at Good VibrationsI can tell that attitudes about prostate play are changing with all of the new massagers and toys available these days. The folks at Jopen recently sent me their latest p-spot pleasure toy, the Ego e4.

Like the rest of the Ego line, the e4 is a rechargeable vibrator and it plugs into any USB port. It’s covered in silicone, so it’s easy to clean, though there is a small opening in the base for the charging plug. Given how lube tends to get in the most unexpected places, I think it’s probably a good idea to cover this one with a condom.

The insertable portion is 3.5″ x 1.5″ (9 cm x 3.75 cm), which is pretty much a perfect size for reaching the prostate. Although anal novices might find that the width takes a little warm-up, it’s just wide enough to allow maximum surface area when the prostate expands during your arousal cycle.

There’s a vibrator in the bulb at each end of the toy, so when it’s all the way in, you’ll get sensation on the prostate and the perineum. That’s a big plus because perineum massage can send sensation up into the prostate from below. It’s not as intense as from direct contact through anal penetration, but the combination of the two together can be amazing. And while the motors are quite strong, the e4 is surprisingly quiet.

Once the e4 is charged and ready to go, you switch it on by holding down the button in the base. Keep holding it down until it reaches the intensity you want. To turn it off, just click the button. Unlike some anal vibrators, it’s not too difficult to adjust the speed while using it, but to lower the speed, you have to turn it off and then back on.

So how does the e4 work? For some things, quite well. The vibrations are strong enough to give amazing pleasure without that buzzy sensation that some toys have. You can use the base to lever the bulb into the prostate, if you want a deeper massage. It’s a bit too heavy for muscular contractions to lever it into the prostate, so unlike the Aneros products, lying on your back means moving it by hand. But if you’re face down, you’re working with gravity and you don’t need to control it manually.

One position that the e4 works really well for is sitting. When you rock your hips back, the corner of the toy acts like a pivot point and presses the bulb right into your p-spot. When you rock forward, the external vibe presses into your perineum. That makes it a great toy to use when sitting on the couch (like while watching a sexy movie or getting a blowjob) or while sitting on a chair. Skype sex or video chat, anyone?

You can also have a lot of fun with the e4 during intercourse. Missionary position, or a rear-entry position that lets you stand or kneel will probably work better than lying on your back.

There are some improvements I’d like to see for this toy. The hole for the charging port is a flaw. The magnetic induction chargers that some manufacturers use would be a big plus. I also think that being able to lower the intensity without turning the toy off would make it better, or even a remote control. I might also make the transition between the bulb and the neck more like a buttplug to make it easier to hold in in place. But beyond that, it’s a good design and works really well. If you enjoy prostate massage, give the e4 a try.

Charlie

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I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.

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April 12, 2013

Add A Little Extra To Pegging With These Great Toys

Filed under: Sex Tips,Toy Reviews — Tags: , , , , , , , — Charlie @ 10:03 am

I get a lot of questions from women who want to try pegging or who have given it a shot, and want to get a little more pleasure out of the experience. Of course, lots of women get off on the experience of pegging, even if they don’t get much direct physical stimulation from it. But there are also some great toys that will give you some extra action.

Some harnesses let you place the base of your dildo low enough down that it rests on your clitoris. That means that every thrust presses it into you, which can be enough in itself for some women. I even know one dedicated harness user who added a clitoral hood piercing so that the bead on the ring would hit the spot. Now, that’s not something that everyone will want to do, but it does show how creative people get when it comes to sex!

Low-rise harnesses will work better for this, and Spareparts makes some awesome ones. The Tomboi and the Sasha are especially good because they’re designed to have a little stretch. When you pull back, the base of the dildo move a little away from your body, so when you push back in, you’ll get even more sensation. (Here’s a review of the Sasha.) One of the great features of these harnesses is that they simply pull on, so they’re super easy to use. They’re also machine-washable, making clean up a snap. I also like how the ring that holds the dildo is sewn in, rather that being held in by straps, because there aren’t any snaps to bump into anyone’s tender parts. A lot of women who have used these harnesses have said that they were able to orgasm from the clitoral stimulation, which makes pegging awesome!

Another great choice is the Feeldoe. You insert the bulb into your vagina and use your PC muscles to hold it there while using the other end on your partner. There’s also a vibrator for added fun, as well as small ridges to press against your clitoris. And just so you know, the shaft isn’t as long as it looks in the photo because the wearer’s body takes up a few inches of it. The insertable portion is about 6 inches (15 cm) long.

The Feeldoe can be a little tricky to hold onto, and the difficulty is that making the bulb bigger also makes it less comfortable for some women. If it slips out at the wrong moment, try wearing the Feeldoe in a low-rise harness to get a little extra support. It’s a great combination.

Want some other choices? Some harnesses like the Vibrating Corsette Harness have a mini vibrator that slips into a pocket in the front pad. If you enjoy vibrators, these can be a fantastic way to get some extra stimulation. These harnesses are super adjustable, machine washable, and quite comfortable. They’re also a great choice if you’re new to pegging because they cost less than some other models. That makes them a good starter harness for a lot of folks. Plus, the wider strap across the back looks really sexy.

If you like G-spot pleasure, take a look at the Smartballs. They have a small marble that rolls around inside of them. Insert them into your vagina and each time you move your hips, you’ll get a little hands-free G-spot action. The single ball might be easier for some women, especially during pegging, but if you want a lot of stimulation, try the double. The Smartballs are coated in body-safe silicone (including the string), so washing them is easy. I’ve also heard from some women who wear them when they go out dancing.

Speaking of toys that work well for pegging and for dancing, check out the Club Vibe. It looks like a standard bullet vibrator, but the battery pack picks up on any background noise to control the vibrator. It works really well at at club since each beat of the music will make it pulse. But you can also have a great time with it during sex since every time you or your partner makes a sound, the vibrator will switch on. There’s a lot of potential for a feedback loop: the more noise you make, the more it vibrates and the more it vibrates, the better it feels. Just don’t wake up the neighbors!

The Club Vibe 2.0 is a bit bigger, and it’s designed to slip into a pair of panties for a night out on the town. But I bet it would work really well with the Tomboi or Sasha harnesses. (I haven’t had anyone test this yet, so if you’ve given it a try, I’d love to hear how it worked.)

Don’t forget that lots of women enjoy anal play, too. You can wear a butt plug while pegging your partner. Just make sure that the bulb is wide enough relative to the neck to stay in during vigorous action. The Bootie Plug (reviewed here) and the larger Bootsy Plug both have an asymmetric shape that makes it easier to insert. Rather than going straight in, try sliding them in on a C-curve that follows the shape of the toy. The slim base means that you can put your legs in any position without losing the toy.

As you can see, there are lots of ways to make sure that pegging is as fun for you as it is for him. It takes a little creativity and some experimentation, but it’s definitely worth it. After all, sex is even more fun when you’re both seeing fireworks. Have fun!

Charlie

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I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.

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April 1, 2013

Supercharge Your Prostate Massage With The Hello Touch By Jimmyjane

Filed under: Toy Reviews — Tags: , , , — Charlie @ 10:10 am

I’m a big fan of prostate massage and there are a lot of great finger moves to drive your partner wild. And of course, there are plenty of fun vibrators for when you want to switch things up. Now, you can do both at the same time, for an experience that’s unlike anything else.

The Hello Touch by Jimmyjane isn’t the first fingertip vibrator, but it’s the best one yet. There’s a super slim vibe inside each of the two silicone pads which are connected to the battery pack. Just slip the battery pack onto your wrist and then put the vibes on. The vibration is more rumbly than buzzy, so it penetrates deeply and creates an amazing sensation. And it’s remarkably quiet, so unlike many battery vibrators, you don’t have to worry about anyone hearing you. Though the odds are that you’ll be making plenty of noise when you use it.

You can wear one vibe on your index and one on your middle finger for broader stimulation on the prostate, or put one on your index finger and the other on your thumb so you can massage the prostate and the perineum at the same time. Both options are pretty amazing. Using it is pretty intuitive- just do what you would usually do when you give a prostate massage.

Although Jimmyjane says that you can simply wash the vibes after use, I recommend putting them on and then slipping a glove on. It works best with larger gloves since your usual gloves might be a bit too snug to slip on over the fingerpads. In most circumstances, gloves that are too large for your hand bunch up and the folds make an in-and-out motion less pleasant, but the Hello Touch works best without that particular movement because you want constant contact. So don’t worry about folds from the gloves irritating the anus.

Insertion is a bit trickier since the pads add a little size to your fingertip. I suggest getting warmed up to the point of being able to accommodate two fingers before putting the vibe inside. (Yes, that means taking off your gloves and then using fresh ones, or using your other hand.) The vibration feels pretty amazing on the anus, even before you slip your fingers inside, so don’t forget to do lots of external massage. The Hello Touch is an amazing way to warm up for anal penetration.

Once you have the vibrator pads on the prostate, you’ll probably find that it works best when you have constant touch. So the “come hither” motion doesn’t work as well as maintaining contact and varying the pressure. Or move in circles, slide down from the deep end of the prostate, or use one finger to keep the vibrator touching the prostate while another finger curls and taps it. Any of those will work better than an on-and-off massage technique, and when you find the right one for your partner, he’ll definitely let you know. If you’re a fan of prostate milking, you’ll love the Hello Touch.

One of the big reasons I like this toy is that you can still get the closeness and connection of prostate massage, while also having the fun of a vibrator. Don’t get me wrong- I like other prostate vibrators, too. But they do lack that direct intimacy of two bodies in contact, and the Hello Touch allows that.

As amazing as the Hello Touch is, I do think there’s room for improvement. I’d like to be able to change the speed. After a while, the prostate gets used to a consistent level of stimulation and ramping up or down can intensify things. I’d also like to have the choice of pulsing the vibration, for the same reason. But you can always turn the vibrator off and continue the massage for a few minutes to let your partner’s body reset itself. When you turn it back on, it’ll feel more sensitive.

A few folks have reported that the silicone bands that hold the vibrators on your fingers are too tight. They stretch out pretty quickly, but if your fingers are large, rubber band a few pencils together and slip the vibrator over them for a while to loosen them up. And the company says that larger fingerbands and wristbands are available upon request. Hopefully, they’ll be in stores soon, too.

If you want some other uses for the Hello Touch, don’t forget that it can be just as fun to use it on the G-spot as on the prostate! Or play with your partner’s nipples, clitoris, or penis. Use it on the testicles and perineum during a blow job. Just be sure to take the glove off after it’s been inside someone’s ass before doing anything else with it! And women who enjoy clitoral vibration during intercourse will find that the slim profile makes this toy really easy to use in most sex positions.

The Hello Touch is made from high quality, body-safe silicone, and it’s phthalate-free. It’s also waterproof for easy cleaning, and runs for up to six hours on 2 AAA batteries. Jimmyjane offers a three year limited warranty, just in case. And the whole toy is small enough to make it easy to travel with, but be sure to take the battery pack out before packing it. There’s no reason to make TSA suspicious of your vibrating suitcase.

Jimmyjane makes some of the most well-designed and exciting sex toys and the Hello Touch is no exception. Pick yours up today and see for yourself how much fun is at your fingertips!

Charlie

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I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.

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March 10, 2013

The Aneros Peridise: A Great Way to Explore Anal Penetration

Filed under: Toy Reviews — Tags: , , , — Charlie @ 3:35 pm

It’s not often that we see a truly innovative product, but the folks at Aneros have another winner!

The Peridise is a fairly slim anal toy with an unusual design. Its shape causes the anus to relax much more than almost any other toy by stimulating involuntary peristaltic contractions. Peristalsis is the rhythmic contraction of the smooth muscles of the digestive system. Sometimes, the anus is held so tightly that it misses out on these contractions. We might hold too tightly in this part of the body for any of a number of reasons, but whatever the cause, it can hinder arousal, make anal play less pleasant, and just be uncomfortable.

When you insert the Peridise (use plenty of lube, please!), it gently stimulates the anal muscles to relax and reconnect to the peristaltic reflex. It also increases blood flow to the anus, which can heighten arousal and create some amazing sensations. The Peridise can help you develop greater awareness of your anal muscles and the subtle and amazingly pleasurable stimulation that anal play can offer. And the more you can tune into how anal stimulation feels, the easier it is to relax the muscles, which makes anal play more fun and allows for more intense prostate pleasure.

When you purchase the Peridise, you’ll get two models of slightly different sizes. Unlike most anal toys, the larger one is the starter one. Think of how much easier it is to hold a pen than a needle and you’ll understand why. The Peridise is made of hard plastic, so clean-up is a breeze and you can use any lubricant with it. At only 4″ (10cm) long, it’s an easy way to explore anal play.

The Peridise feels amazing on its own or when combined with genital stimulation, whether solo or with a partner. And unlike the Aneros MGX or their other products which are specifically designed for prostate play, the Peridise can be used by anyone who wants to enhance anal play. For beginners, it can help you develop the awareness to make penetration more fun. Folks with more experience with any play will be surprised at how much pleasure this toy can offer. Whether you’re new to anal play or a backdoor expert, you’ve never felt anything quite like the Peridise. Get yours today!

Charlie

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I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.

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