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November 23, 2013

The Pulse Oscillating Vibrator Will Rock Your World

Filed under: Toy Reviews — Tags: , , , — Charlie @ 12:57 pm

Pulse Oscillating StimulatorI get a lot of questions about prostate massage and pegging, and one of the most common is, “what about pleasuring the penis while we’re doing this?” During a prostate massage, some people like to use their other hand for that, though it can be tricky to coordinate everything. And when you’re pegging, you sometimes need both hands to hold yourself up.

A lot of people simply have the receiver stroke his cock, and that’s a really fun way to do it. But if you want to turn things up to 11, you should try the Pulse Oscillating Vibrator.

If you’ve never used a vibrator on your penis, you have no idea what you’re missing. The nerves in the penis are very similar to the nerves in the clitoris, so it makes sense that a lot of men enjoy vibrators, especially around the head. But most vibrators aren’t designed with penises in mind, so they’re either the wrong size, the wrong shape, or both. That’s where the Pulse really stands out.

The coating is silicone, so you can use any water-based or oil-based lubricant with it. Simply lube up your cock and slide it into the toy. The wings are flexible to fit most penises, and it works with a soft and a firm cock, and there are gentle ridges for added stimulation. Inside the toy, there’s a vibrator with nine speeds and it’s built to focus the sensation on the most sensitive area around and under the head of the penis. Most other toys have a low-amplitude vibration, which makes them buzzy or tickly. The Pulse has high-amplitude oscillation that create a deeper sensation that feels amazing.

If you have an erection, you can easily hold the Pulse right where you want it. If your penis is less firm, you can rest the toy on your body and let it cradle your penis. Gripping the wings will squeeze the vibrator against the shaft of your penis for a deeper vibration, or you can simply allow it to vibrate against you for a lighter touch.

However you use it, the Pulse makes prostate play so much easier because it frees things up. During a massage, the giver can easily hold it in place without having to worry about trying to coordinate their different hands. It’s also really simple to use during pegging, in almost any position. The one improvement that I can see would be a way to rest it on the bed so it would stay in place in a rear-entry position.

One of the best things about the Pulse is that it feels amazing no matter how firm your penis is. Since a lot of men find that anal penetration causes their erections to get softer (that may be because the muscular relaxation that allows penetration means less blood is trapped in the penis), the fact that this toy works like that is fantastic. In fact, some users even orgasm and ejaculate with a totally soft penis!

This toy is rechargeable in any USB port and runs for up to two hours, depending on the speed. Since it’s silicone, it’s pretty easy to clean, although you can’t submerge it in water so wiping it down seems like the best bet.

Here’s a short video from the maker, showing some of the other ways to use the Pulse. You can pick one on at sex-positive stores everywhere!

PULSE by Hot Octopuss from Adam Lewis on Vimeo.

Charlie

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I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.

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August 15, 2013

Take Your Prostate Massage To The Next Level With The Aneros Helix Syn

Filed under: Toy Reviews — Tags: , , — Charlie @ 5:38 pm

Helix Syn by AnerosI’ve been a big fan of the Aneros prostate massagers ever since their first products came out. Their unique designs are based on extensive research, and they really know their stuff. But the company isn’t content to rest on their past successes. They keep coming out with new toys.

On the surface, the Helix Syn is similar to the other Aneros prostate massagers. Designed for hands-free use, the toy levers into the prostate with each contraction of the pelvic floor. That means you can use it on its own, or you can combine it with other pleasures, including solo sex, oral play, or intercourse. But the Helix Syn offers amazing options that toys from other companies simply can’t match.

The inner core is rigid, but the outer layer is made from their Velvet Touch Silicone. The combined texture is amazingly similar to the way that a finger feels- firm on the inside, with a softer layer around it. The Helix Syn offers sensations that are more like a massage from a finger than anything else I’ve ever tried.

Take a look at the part of the base that curves upward. It’s meant to rest on the perineum, which creates a levering action when you squeeze the right muscles. (The same muscles that make your erection bounce. They also squeeze during ejaculation.)  What makes that arm different is that it’s flexible, rather than rigid. You might think that that means you’d get less sensation, but if you have well-toned muscles, you’ll have amazing control over how the toy moves.

If you’ve been doing your exercises, you can get the Helix Syn to provide light touch, deeper sensation, or anything in between. You do need to have pretty good muscular control to get the most out of your experience, so if you haven’t been doing your Kegels, you might do better with the MGX Classic. (Here’s my write-up about it.) Keeping your PC muscle in shape with Kegel exercises makes any kind of prostate play a lot more fun, so check out this post for some tips.

One thing- since the Helix Syn is so light and relies on fairly subtle motions, you’ll get more pleasure from it if you aren’t moving around a lot. So if you want to use it during intercourse, it works better if you’re on your back with your partner on top of you. If you’re doing a lot of thrusting, you probably won’t have as much control over how it moves. But it’s really amazing during oral sex or handjobs!

The insertable length is 4 inches (just over 10 com), so it’s the perfect length to reach the prostate. It’s about as wide as a finger, so it’s pretty easy to insert, even if you’re new to prostate play. You can use it with any water-based or oil-based lubricant, but don’t use silicone lubes since some of them bond with silicone toys and ruin them. And clean-up is easy. Just wash it with soap and hot water.

When you’re ready to experience a prostate massage that’ll rock your world, give the Helix Syn a try. It’s one of the most amazing toys I’ve ever used.

Charlie

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I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.

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May 14, 2013

The Aneros Vice Vibrating Silicone Anal Toy Will Rock Your World

Filed under: Toy Reviews — Tags: , , , — Charlie @ 12:43 pm

When you’re ready to experience the ultimate in hands-free prostate pleasure, you don’t need to look any further than the Aneros Vice. This amazing gadget has it all.

As with all of their other products, the folks with Aneros took their time to create something special. Made from body-safe silicone, the Vice is designed to rest comfortably against the prostate. With an insertable length of 4″, it’s long enough to hit the spot without being too big. But what makes the Vice really stand out is the vibrator.

Most anal toys either focus the vibration at the base, where it’s great for anal sensations but not so fun for the prostate, or they’re really buzzy, which can make the prostate tune out. For the Vice, the vibrator is long enough to put the tip right where the prostate is, maximizing your pleasure. And rather than being a buzzy little motor, the vibe is ultra-quiet and offers pulsing vibrations that are much more enjoyable for prostate play. There are three patterns, each of which has three levels of intensity, so you have lots of choices.

Like the rest of the Aneros line, the Vice can be moved by contracting your pelvic floor, so you can lever it into your prostate for a deeper vibration. You can also wear it during sex and every time you thrust or move your hips, it’ll massage your p-spot. It’s an incredible combination that nothing else comes close to.

Since the Vice is made from silicone, it’s super easy to clean. Just slide the vibrator out and wash it with soap and water. The vibe is water-resistant, so you can drop it in the sink, too. And if you want to disinfect the silicone, just wash it and then put it in the top rack of a dishwasher or boiling water for five minutes. It couldn’t be easier.

The only difficulty you might have with the Vice is that pressing the button on the vibe to change speeds can be tricky when there’s lube on it. It’s definitely easier if you wipe any lube off before trying to adjust the setting. I always suggest laying a towel down before prostate play, just to be sure to not get lube on the sheets, so it’s not hard to grab a corner of it.

All in all, the Aneros Vice is a serious winner and there’s nothing else like it. When you’re ready for a toe-curling experience pick one of these up and get ready for a fun ride!

Charlie

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I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.

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May 8, 2013

The Jopen Ego e4: A Fun New Prostate Massager

Filed under: Toy Reviews — Tags: , , , — Charlie @ 11:21 am

Jopen Ego e4 at Good VibrationsI can tell that attitudes about prostate play are changing with all of the new massagers and toys available these days. The folks at Jopen recently sent me their latest p-spot pleasure toy, the Ego e4.

Like the rest of the Ego line, the e4 is a rechargeable vibrator and it plugs into any USB port. It’s covered in silicone, so it’s easy to clean, though there is a small opening in the base for the charging plug. Given how lube tends to get in the most unexpected places, I think it’s probably a good idea to cover this one with a condom.

The insertable portion is 3.5″ x 1.5″ (9 cm x 3.75 cm), which is pretty much a perfect size for reaching the prostate. Although anal novices might find that the width takes a little warm-up, it’s just wide enough to allow maximum surface area when the prostate expands during your arousal cycle.

There’s a vibrator in the bulb at each end of the toy, so when it’s all the way in, you’ll get sensation on the prostate and the perineum. That’s a big plus because perineum massage can send sensation up into the prostate from below. It’s not as intense as from direct contact through anal penetration, but the combination of the two together can be amazing. And while the motors are quite strong, the e4 is surprisingly quiet.

Once the e4 is charged and ready to go, you switch it on by holding down the button in the base. Keep holding it down until it reaches the intensity you want. To turn it off, just click the button. Unlike some anal vibrators, it’s not too difficult to adjust the speed while using it, but to lower the speed, you have to turn it off and then back on.

So how does the e4 work? For some things, quite well. The vibrations are strong enough to give amazing pleasure without that buzzy sensation that some toys have. You can use the base to lever the bulb into the prostate, if you want a deeper massage. It’s a bit too heavy for muscular contractions to lever it into the prostate, so unlike the Aneros products, lying on your back means moving it by hand. But if you’re face down, you’re working with gravity and you don’t need to control it manually.

One position that the e4 works really well for is sitting. When you rock your hips back, the corner of the toy acts like a pivot point and presses the bulb right into your p-spot. When you rock forward, the external vibe presses into your perineum. That makes it a great toy to use when sitting on the couch (like while watching a sexy movie or getting a blowjob) or while sitting on a chair. Skype sex or video chat, anyone?

You can also have a lot of fun with the e4 during intercourse. Missionary position, or a rear-entry position that lets you stand or kneel will probably work better than lying on your back.

There are some improvements I’d like to see for this toy. The hole for the charging port is a flaw. The magnetic induction chargers that some manufacturers use would be a big plus. I also think that being able to lower the intensity without turning the toy off would make it better, or even a remote control. I might also make the transition between the bulb and the neck more like a buttplug to make it easier to hold in in place. But beyond that, it’s a good design and works really well. If you enjoy prostate massage, give the e4 a try.

Charlie

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I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.

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April 12, 2013

Add A Little Extra To Pegging With These Great Toys

Filed under: Sex Tips,Toy Reviews — Tags: , , , , , , , — Charlie @ 10:03 am

I get a lot of questions from women who want to try pegging or who have given it a shot, and want to get a little more pleasure out of the experience. Of course, lots of women get off on the experience of pegging, even if they don’t get much direct physical stimulation from it. But there are also some great toys that will give you some extra action.

Some harnesses let you place the base of your dildo low enough down that it rests on your clitoris. That means that every thrust presses it into you, which can be enough in itself for some women. I even know one dedicated harness user who added a clitoral hood piercing so that the bead on the ring would hit the spot. Now, that’s not something that everyone will want to do, but it does show how creative people get when it comes to sex!

Low-rise harnesses will work better for this, and Spareparts makes some awesome ones. The Tomboi and the Sasha are especially good because they’re designed to have a little stretch. When you pull back, the base of the dildo move a little away from your body, so when you push back in, you’ll get even more sensation. (Here’s a review of the Sasha.) One of the great features of these harnesses is that they simply pull on, so they’re super easy to use. They’re also machine-washable, making clean up a snap. I also like how the ring that holds the dildo is sewn in, rather that being held in by straps, because there aren’t any snaps to bump into anyone’s tender parts. A lot of women who have used these harnesses have said that they were able to orgasm from the clitoral stimulation, which makes pegging awesome!

Another great choice is the Feeldoe. You insert the bulb into your vagina and use your PC muscles to hold it there while using the other end on your partner. There’s also a vibrator for added fun, as well as small ridges to press against your clitoris. And just so you know, the shaft isn’t as long as it looks in the photo because the wearer’s body takes up a few inches of it. The insertable portion is about 6 inches (15 cm) long.

The Feeldoe can be a little tricky to hold onto, and the difficulty is that making the bulb bigger also makes it less comfortable for some women. If it slips out at the wrong moment, try wearing the Feeldoe in a low-rise harness to get a little extra support. It’s a great combination.

Want some other choices? Some harnesses like the Vibrating Corsette Harness have a mini vibrator that slips into a pocket in the front pad. If you enjoy vibrators, these can be a fantastic way to get some extra stimulation. These harnesses are super adjustable, machine washable, and quite comfortable. They’re also a great choice if you’re new to pegging because they cost less than some other models. That makes them a good starter harness for a lot of folks. Plus, the wider strap across the back looks really sexy.

If you like G-spot pleasure, take a look at the Smartballs. They have a small marble that rolls around inside of them. Insert them into your vagina and each time you move your hips, you’ll get a little hands-free G-spot action. The single ball might be easier for some women, especially during pegging, but if you want a lot of stimulation, try the double. The Smartballs are coated in body-safe silicone (including the string), so washing them is easy. I’ve also heard from some women who wear them when they go out dancing.

Speaking of toys that work well for pegging and for dancing, check out the Club Vibe. It looks like a standard bullet vibrator, but the battery pack picks up on any background noise to control the vibrator. It works really well at at club since each beat of the music will make it pulse. But you can also have a great time with it during sex since every time you or your partner makes a sound, the vibrator will switch on. There’s a lot of potential for a feedback loop: the more noise you make, the more it vibrates and the more it vibrates, the better it feels. Just don’t wake up the neighbors!

The Club Vibe 2.0 is a bit bigger, and it’s designed to slip into a pair of panties for a night out on the town. But I bet it would work really well with the Tomboi or Sasha harnesses. (I haven’t had anyone test this yet, so if you’ve given it a try, I’d love to hear how it worked.)

Don’t forget that lots of women enjoy anal play, too. You can wear a butt plug while pegging your partner. Just make sure that the bulb is wide enough relative to the neck to stay in during vigorous action. The Bootie Plug (reviewed here) and the larger Bootsy Plug both have an asymmetric shape that makes it easier to insert. Rather than going straight in, try sliding them in on a C-curve that follows the shape of the toy. The slim base means that you can put your legs in any position without losing the toy.

As you can see, there are lots of ways to make sure that pegging is as fun for you as it is for him. It takes a little creativity and some experimentation, but it’s definitely worth it. After all, sex is even more fun when you’re both seeing fireworks. Have fun!

Charlie

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I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.

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