Supercharge Your Prostate Massage With The Hello Touch By Jimmyjane

I’m a big fan of prostate massage and there are a lot of great finger moves to drive your partner wild. And of course, there are plenty of fun vibrators for when you want to switch things up. Now, you can do both at the same time, for an experience that’s unlike anything else.

The Hello Touch by Jimmyjane isn’t the first fingertip vibrator, but it’s the best one yet. There’s a super slim vibe inside each of the two silicone pads which are connected to the battery pack. Just slip the battery pack onto your wrist and then put the vibes on. The vibration is more rumbly than buzzy, so it penetrates deeply and creates an amazing sensation. And it’s remarkably quiet, so unlike many battery vibrators, you don’t have to worry about anyone hearing you. Though the odds are that you’ll be making plenty of noise when you use it.

You can wear one vibe on your index and one on your middle finger for broader stimulation on the prostate, or put one on your index finger and the other on your thumb so you can massage the prostate and the perineum at the same time. Both options are pretty amazing. Using it is pretty intuitive- just do what you would usually do when you give a prostate massage.

Although Jimmyjane says that you can simply wash the vibes after use, I recommend putting them on and then slipping a glove on. It works best with larger gloves since your usual gloves might be a bit too snug to slip on over the fingerpads. In most circumstances, gloves that are too large for your hand bunch up and the folds make an in-and-out motion less pleasant, but the Hello Touch works best without that particular movement because you want constant contact. So don’t worry about folds from the gloves irritating the anus.

Insertion is a bit trickier since the pads add a little size to your fingertip. I suggest getting warmed up to the point of being able to accommodate two fingers before putting the vibe inside. (Yes, that means taking off your gloves and then using fresh ones, or using your other hand.) The vibration feels pretty amazing on the anus, even before you slip your fingers inside, so don’t forget to do lots of external massage. The Hello Touch is an amazing way to warm up for anal penetration.

Once you have the vibrator pads on the prostate, you’ll probably find that it works best when you have constant touch. So the “come hither” motion doesn’t work as well as maintaining contact and varying the pressure. Or move in circles, slide down from the deep end of the prostate, or use one finger to keep the vibrator touching the prostate while another finger curls and taps it. Any of those will work better than an on-and-off massage technique, and when you find the right one for your partner, he’ll definitely let you know. If you’re a fan of prostate milking, you’ll love the Hello Touch.

One of the big reasons I like this toy is that you can still get the closeness and connection of prostate massage, while also having the fun of a vibrator. Don’t get me wrong- I like other prostate vibrators, too. But they do lack that direct intimacy of two bodies in contact, and the Hello Touch allows that.

As amazing as the Hello Touch is, I do think there’s room for improvement. I’d like to be able to change the speed. After a while, the prostate gets used to a consistent level of stimulation and ramping up or down can intensify things. I’d also like to have the choice of pulsing the vibration, for the same reason. But you can always turn the vibrator off and continue the massage for a few minutes to let your partner’s body reset itself. When you turn it back on, it’ll feel more sensitive.

A few folks have reported that the silicone bands that hold the vibrators on your fingers are too tight. They stretch out pretty quickly, but if your fingers are large, rubber band a few pencils together and slip the vibrator over them for a while to loosen them up. And the company says that larger fingerbands and wristbands are available upon request. Hopefully, they’ll be in stores soon, too.

If you want some other uses for the Hello Touch, don’t forget that it can be just as fun to use it on the G-spot as on the prostate! Or play with your partner’s nipples, clitoris, or penis. Use it on the testicles and perineum during a blow job. Just be sure to take the glove off after it’s been inside someone’s ass before doing anything else with it! And women who enjoy clitoral vibration during intercourse will find that the slim profile makes this toy really easy to use in most sex positions.

The Hello Touch is made from high quality, body-safe silicone, and it’s phthalate-free. It’s also waterproof for easy cleaning, and runs for up to six hours on 2 AAA batteries. Jimmyjane offers a three year limited warranty, just in case. And the whole toy is small enough to make it easy to travel with, but be sure to take the battery pack out before packing it. There’s no reason to make TSA suspicious of your vibrating suitcase.

Jimmyjane makes some of the most well-designed and exciting sex toys and the Hello Touch is no exception. Pick yours up today and see for yourself how much fun is at your fingertips!

Prostate Play For Gay Men

When we wrote our book, one of our first steps was to send out a survey to find out what experiences and concerns men and their partners had about prostate play. Among our other questions, we asked men to tell us how often prostate play was part of their anal sex experiences, and the answers were all over the map. We heard from one guy who loves to receive anal sex, but doesn’t really like prostate stimulation. We heard from several who said that prostate massage was the entire point, so it’s always part of their anal sex. And most of the answers fell somewhere in the middle, ranging from sometimes to usually.

This is really important because a lot of people assume that prostate stimulation is the reason why men enjoy receiving anal play. In reality, a lot of men have plenty of anal sex experience and think it’s a lot of fun, without doing much prostate play. Of course, some of them might be receiving prostate stimulation without realizing it, in the same way that some women don’t realize that their favorite intercourse position is perfect for G-spot stimulation. But a lot of guys have told us that once they discovered what prostate pleasure can feel like, they realized that it was something totally different from what they had been doing before. That means that we have to recognize that anal sex doesn’t always mean prostate stimulation.

That makes a lot of sense to me. Both the anus and the prostate are packed with sensitive nerves, but they feel totally different. Once you learn to pay attention to the different sensations, you’ll see what I mean. Mixing them together is like putting two flavors of food together- it’s a totally new pleasure, though of course, they can each be pretty amazing on their own. But it’s important to let go of the assumption that the reason many guys like anal sex is because of the prostate. It’s true for some, but not for everyone.

This question has come up a lot in my workshops on prostate play for gay men, especially when I talk about massage or using the Aneros. A lot of queer men like to talk about being size queens, or being able to receive anal penetration from a partner with a big penis. Some guys are really pleased with themselves for being able to do that. Many of them enjoy the sensation of being filled with a large penis or dildo. I’m certainly not saying that there’s anything wrong with that. But sometimes, these kinds of attitudes get in the way of exploring how much fun prostate play can be.

That’s because prostate pleasure doesn’t require a large object. Instead, it requires firm, focused pressure. Think about getting a massage. There’s a difference between having a thumb or a knuckle dig into a sore muscle, or having someone’s palm press into it. The palm spreads the pressure out over a larger area, creating a broader but less intense sensation. The smaller surface area of a thumb means you get a more focused and deeper quality to the massage. In fact, after a certain point, a larger dildo or penis doesn’t necessarily provide more prostate sensations. Once it’s as wide as the prostate, there’s maximum surface area contact, so going bigger doesn’t add much.

I always think it’s ironic that so many gay men reject massage or the Aneros, saying things like “what’s that going to do for me?” My suggestion is to try it and see for yourself. If you’re like a lot of the guys I’ve spoken with, you have a treat in store for you. Trust me.

If you want to add prostate fun during sex with a partner, try giving him a prostate massage while also giving him a blow job. Time your finger motions and your oral action to drive him wild. And remember- the prostate doesn’t always like really hard pressure. Use about as much force as you would when you’re typing. Use a regular rhythm and experiment with different finger moves. We describe more than a dozen options in our book, so there are lots of possibilities.

Or try one of the Aneros toys. You can wear it while giving or getting a blow job, or while masturbating. Each time you contract your pelvic floor, it’ll lever the toy into your prostate for hands-free fun. If you aren’t sure what “contract your pelvic floor” means, it’s the same motion that you can do to make your erection bounce. It’s also the muscle contraction that happens during ejaculation, which makes orgasm even more fun. And since their toys are all about the size of a finger, it’s like having having the firm pressure of a finger on your prostate with each squeeze. There’s a reason they’ve sold over one million of their toys, so don’t let your ideas about bigger always being better get in the way of your fun.

I have to admit that I’ve been enjoying hearing from gay men who have finally discovered prostate play. Once they see that we’re suggesting “in addition to,” rather than “instead of,” they’ve been much more willing to give it a try and so far, the results have been really positive. Besides, even the most experienced anal player has days when his body just isn’t up for anal intercourse. Isn’t it great to have more options?

Five Great Positions For Pegging

We get a lot of folks asking us for tips to make pegging and anal intercourse work better for prostate play. Once you have your toys, lubricant, and other goodies, and you have your partner is all warmed up and ready to go, it’s time to figure out which positions you want to try. Of course, each combination of people will need to experiment a bit since successful sex positions are partly determined by size, flexibility, strength, and other factors. But here are a five of my favorite positions.

1) Face to face

This is one of the more popular pegging positions for a lot of people. Being able to see your partner’s face can be a lot of fun, and it keeps everyone’s hands available for penis stimulation. It usually works better if the receiver has his hips on a pillow to lift them up a bit because it gives easier access. It’s also good to put a pillow or two under his head. That makes it more comfortable, and curving the spine in a gentle C-shape can make the prostate easier to reach.

Have him raise his knees to his chest and support them in his hands to help relax the pelvic muscles and straighten out the curves of the rectum to give you a straight shot. You can also hold them up for him, like in the picture, to give a little extra support. Try it with his knees closer together or further apart. The more he can relax into the experience, the more fun you can both have!

2) Elbow and knees

If you like rear entry, put him on his elbows and knees, rather than hands and knees. That keeps the pressure off of his wrists, so he’ll last longer. And anal sex often works better if his hips are higher than his shoulders, so that’s another plus. You can grab his hips to control the depth, you can let him do the moving, or both!

Try having him move his knees closer together to raise him up or further apart to lower him down so you can get exactly the right angle. Aim the curve of your dildo downward towards his navel or it’ll miss his prostate. This is one big advantage dildos have over penises- you can rotate them to the best position. When he gets tired, slip a Liberator Wedge under him and keep on going.

3) Standing & bent over

Another fun variation on rear entry is to have him standing on the floor, bent over the bed or couch or kitchen table. Just like hands and knees, he can move his feet to raise and lower himself. And since he has the support of the surface under him, he can rest his body and let you take over.

Some guys have tight hamstring muscles, which can make this position a challenge. Roll up a towel and put it under his heels. When your heels are higher than your toes, it makes it easier to move your hips, which is one reason high heels can look so sexy. Of course, if you both enjoy having him wear high heels, that works just as well. But it’s not necessary, since the towel will do the trick.

4) Cowboy

Want a fun variation on face-to-face? Lie back and have him straddle you with his knees on the bed. In this position, he has total control over the angle, depth, and speed so you can enjoy the show.

Here’s a fun trick- have him slide all the way down (or at least, as far as he enjoys) and instead of moving up and down, he can swivel his hips from front to back, from side to side, or in circles. Your dildo or penis will massage his prostate with each move and he can try different speeds and directions to find the ones he likes most. This is a great way for you to take a break if you’ve been thrusting pretty hard. (Pegging is also great motivation for doing pilates. Just saying.)

5) On his side

This one can be a little tricky, but it’s worth it. He lies on his side on the bed and brings his upper knee to his chest. Both his hip and knee are bent at 90 degrees. Put a pillow under his knee, and straddle his lower leg. It won’t work for all folks- if he’s a lot bigger than you, you might have trouble reaching. But it’s super relaxing for him and it’s often a good choice for men with injuries or other mobility limitations.

So there you have it. Five great positions for pegging and anal intercourse. We have a lot more suggestions and tips in our book, so if you want to make pegging even more fun, grab a copy and see what fun you can get up to!

The Aneros Peridise: A Great Way to Explore Anal Penetration

It’s not often that we see a truly innovative product, but the folks at Aneros have another winner!

The Peridise is a fairly slim anal toy with an unusual design. Its shape causes the anus to relax much more than almost any other toy by stimulating involuntary peristaltic contractions. Peristalsis is the rhythmic contraction of the smooth muscles of the digestive system. Sometimes, the anus is held so tightly that it misses out on these contractions. We might hold too tightly in this part of the body for any of a number of reasons, but whatever the cause, it can hinder arousal, make anal play less pleasant, and just be uncomfortable.

When you insert the Peridise (use plenty of lube, please!), it gently stimulates the anal muscles to relax and reconnect to the peristaltic reflex. It also increases blood flow to the anus, which can heighten arousal and create some amazing sensations. The Peridise can help you develop greater awareness of your anal muscles and the subtle and amazingly pleasurable stimulation that anal play can offer. And the more you can tune into how anal stimulation feels, the easier it is to relax the muscles, which makes anal play more fun and allows for more intense prostate pleasure.

When you purchase the Peridise, you’ll get two models of slightly different sizes. Unlike most anal toys, the larger one is the starter one. Think of how much easier it is to hold a pen than a needle and you’ll understand why. The Peridise is made of hard plastic, so clean-up is a breeze and you can use any lubricant with it. At only 4″ (10cm) long, it’s an easy way to explore anal play.

The Peridise feels amazing on its own or when combined with genital stimulation, whether solo or with a partner. And unlike the Aneros MGX or their other products which are specifically designed for prostate play, the Peridise can be used by anyone who wants to enhance anal play. For beginners, it can help you develop the awareness to make penetration more fun. Folks with more experience with any play will be surprised at how much pleasure this toy can offer. Whether you’re new to anal play or a backdoor expert, you’ve never felt anything quite like the Peridise. Get yours today!

Think Harnesses Are Just For Women? Check Out The Deuce Harness For Men!

A Harness for Men?

Most folks assume that the only people wearing strap-on dildos are women and transgender men. And while it’s true that those are probably the most likely harness users, cisgender men can also wear harnesses. But until SpareParts HardWear came out with the Deuce, there weren’t many options. Yes, some guys managed to use some other strap-ons, but they weren’t well designed for their anatomy and they weren’t all that successful. Fortunately, that’s now changed.

The Deuce’s design gives you a lot of options for sexy fun. The pouch is shaped like a jockstrap so you can keep your penis inside, if you like. That makes it a great choice for men who have erection difficulties, which is pretty common after having prostate surgery to treat cancer. It’s also a fantastic option when your partner prefers a different size than your own penis. I recently worked with a couple who both enjoyed anal intercourse, but his penis was too big for comfort. So they decided to try using a harness with a smaller dildo. I wasn’t sure whether they were planning on using it instead of his penis or as a warm-up to make intercourse easier, but either way, they were excited to have a new way to have fun.

Double Penetration Fun

Where the Deuce really shines, though, is in double penetration. Most folks who enjoy simultaneous vaginal and anal intercourse have had to arrange threesomes. But that’s not something everyone wants to do. Besides, while it can be fun, the positions that work for that are somewhat limited since you’re trying to fit three bodies together. With the Deuce, the guy wearing it slips his penis through the lower ring and wears a dildo in the upper one. If his partner is facing him, his penis will be in her ass and the dildo will be in her vagina. Facing the other way reverses that.

This combination lets you get into positions that a DP in a threesome can’t quite manage because you only have to fit two bodies together. You also get the dildo and his cock moving in unison, which rarely happens for long in a threesome. Of course, you have many more choices in size and shape when picking a dildo. (The Charm is awesome for this, by the way.) And lastly, the guy wearing the Deuce can feel the dildo against the shaft of his cock when thrusting, so there’s a lot of added pleasure for him.

Great For Sex With Erection Difficulties

If you’re thinking of checking out the Deuce because of erection difficulties, you might want to read the article Restoration of Satisfying Sex for a Castrated Cancer Patient with Complete Impotence: A Case Study. I know- it’s a terrible title. But the article has some really amazing stuff to offer. It details the story of a man who had a radical prostatectomy to treat prostate cancer and had complete erectile dysfunction afterward. For many men, this is a temporary situation, but for this fellow, it was permanent. At first, he resisted the idea of using a dildo and harness, but eventually gave it a try. While he was using it with his wife, she put some lube on her hand and stroked his cock as he thrust in and out. In his words:

There was little sensory difference between this act and intercourse—my penis was not in her vagina but it did not know that. It was in a wet, warm place being firmly mechanically stimulated. My hindbrain took over, and I carried the act through to orgasm, to the sexual satisfaction of both my partner and myself.

That’s pretty amazing and offers hope to a lot of men who have temporary or permanent erection difficulties for any reason, including health issues, stress, or having already had an ejaculatory orgasm. While this couple made it work before the Deuce was available, I’m willing to bet that they’d enjoy the Deuce more since it’s a better design for this use.

And can I just say that using a strap-on can be really freeing for guys? It takes a fair bit of practice and attention to have intercourse for a lot of us because we have to manage our stimulation and arousal. Too much and we ejaculate before we (or our partners) want. Too little and our erections might get softer than we need for penetration. Unless we use a medication like Viagra, most men are paying at least some attention to those competing challenges. When you use a dildo, you don’t have to think about that at all, which lets you focus entirely on giving your partner lot of pleasure.

I’m not saying that we should stop having intercourse the “regular” way or that we should assume that our partners want intercourse for hours. But you might be really surprised at how freeing it is to be able to please your partner without needing to think about anything else at the same time. Besides, if you enjoy being pegged, it’s pretty amazing to see what it’s like on the other side of the harness.

A Few Tips For Using The Deuce

  • Pick a dildo without testicles. You need to fit the base just above your penis, so you’ll want a toy with a round base, not with balls.
  • Make sure your partner is warmed up before trying double penetration. You’ll need to start off even more carefully than usual since there’s a lot happening all at once.
  • If you pull out completely, be sure to not let the dildo and your penis come into contact with each other since that could transmit lube and bacteria from her ass to her vagina- a big no-no! If they do touch, simply change the condom on whichever one is going into her vagina.
  • It’s much easier to get the dildo through the ring if you put a condom on it since that lubricates the shaft and lets the ring slip on.

So there you have it. The Deuce gives you a lot of options you probably didn’t even know existed. Double penetration without having to sift through OKCupid for another partner, more choices in size and positions, intercourse without an erection- the Deuce makes them all possible. And it’s machine washable, super comfortable, and is really well designed.

If you want to pick one up, head over to Good Vibrations and pick one up. While you’re there, be sure to check out the dildos and lubricants. They’ve got lots of great ones to choose from!

Upcoming Workshop in Seattle! Hitting the Spot: Prostate Play & G-spot Pleasure

I’m always amazed at how many ways our culture tries to separate sexual response based on gender. Of course, there are many differences in how male and female sexuality work, but we have a lot more in common with folks of other genders than you might realize.

That’s because our sexual organs come from the same basic template. Depending on hormones and development, they grow into different patterns but the fundamental structures are much the same. For example, the penis and the clitoris are remarkably similar. They’re both made of erectile tissue that engorges during arousal and they have very similar nerves, which means that they respond to the same kinds of stimulation. That means (among other things) that a vibrator on the head of the penis can feel amazing and I’m always surprised that more guys haven’t tried it. Believe me- if you’ve never explored it, you’re missing out.

The outer labia and the skin of the scrotum are also pretty similar, which is why a lot of people of any gender enjoy a stretching or massage sensation there. Try gently gripping the skin between your thumb and index finger, and tug gently (or not so gently, if your partner prefers). It can be a great add-on during oral sex or a handjob.

Of course, we can’t forget the nipples. I’ve often heard it said that the clitoris is the only part of the body with no function other than pleasure. May I introduce you to men’s nipples? Kissing, biting, sucking, pinching, twisting- start off softly and ramp up. You might be surprised at how many guys love it just as much as women do.

With all of these pleasures we have in common, it shouldn’t be much of a surprise to hear that the prostate and the G-spot are pretty similar, too. Once you get past the fact that the prostate is best reached through anal penetration while most folks find vaginal play to be the best way to find the G-spot, most of the techniques are the same. Firm pressure (“stroke, don’t poke”) with either a curved toy or one with a bulb on the end usually feels amazing. If you’re using your fingers, the “come here” motion, circles, or sliding across with your fingertips are often favorites. And a lot of people like to combine prostate play with cock stimulation, just as G-spot play plus clitoral stimulation drives a lot of people wild.

That’s not all! Both prostate and G-spot orgasms are often described as bigger, more expansive, or more full-body than the focused or more concentrated orgasms folks often have from penis or clitoris stimulation.

With all that in common, it’s no surprise that many of the techniques people enjoy are much the same, but there are some important differences to know about, too. Our workshop Hitting the Spot: Prostate Play & G-spot Pleasure covers everything you need to know to see for yourself how much fun you can have with these super sexy erogenous zones. We’ll be at the Foundation for Sex-Positive Culture on March 2, 3-5 pm, followed by a book signing for The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men & Their Partners from 5-6 pm. Come on by, get some new bedroom tricks, and say hi!

Hitting the Spot: Prostate Play & G-spot Pleasure
Annex ~ Center for Sex Positive Culture
1608 15th Ave. W., Seattle, WA 98119
March 2, 2013
3pm – 6pm, workshop from 3-5pm
18+ with ID only
$25 at door; $20 in advance

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Three Great Lubricants for Prostate Massage & Prostate Milking

Prostate massage and prostate milking are two of the most popular ways to bring your partner some amazing pleasure. Your fingers are incredibly sensitive to every small change in your lover’s response and there are a lot of different techniques you can use to tease and arouse. Plus, you can combine your favorite finger moves with oral sex or a handjob, which will make your guy’s toes curl! But however you like to do it, you’ll want a high-quality lubricant to keep things slippery and fun.

When it comes to lube, everyone’s a bit different so you’ll need to try a few out to see what works best for you. It’s similar to shampoo or skin lotion- some people really don’t mind and others have specific brands that they find works best for them. And with so many options on the market these days, it can seem like there are too many choices to pick just one. Here are a few tips to make it easier.


One of the most important factors is what your lube is made from. Water-based formulas are really easy to clean up since they just rinse off in the shower, and they come in a wide range of textures and formulas . However, your body will absorb the water in them after a while, which makes them dry out. That means you’ll need to keep adding more a bit more often than some other kinds of lube.

Silicone lubricants won’t be absorbed by your body, so they last longer. Plus, they don’t dry out, which means a little goes a long way. But they do require soap and water to clean up and they can stain some sheets, so put a towel on the bed before you get started. If you’re using a silicone toy, some of these lubes can damage them. Roll a condom over the toy, all the way down over the base, to keep the lubricant off.

Hybrid lubricants offer the best of both worlds. They contain both silicone for slipperiness and water-based ingredients for easy cleaning. While not as long-lasting as pure silicone, they have great staying power and many people find them more convenient.


For pegging and anal intercourse, most people prefer thicker lubricants because they give you some extra cushioning for the back-and-forth motion. For prostate massage, though, that’s often less of an issue since your fingers usually aren’t moving as deeply or as quickly. So while a thick formula is definitely worth trying, it’s worth experimenting with a thinner one. Which one you and your partner like will be affected by what massage or milking moves you enjoy.

Three Great Lubricants

Please Cream Lubricant by Pleasure Works is a great choice if you want a super slick time. The light, creamy texture feels amazing and the long-lasting formula has been getting a lot of fans. It’s fantastic for for prostate massage and milking since you won’t have any stickiness to get in the way of your pleasure.

It’s primarily water-based, but Please Cream does contain a small amount of silicone to make it more slippery. However, it’s safe with silicone toys because of the small concentration. Another plus to Please Cream is that many of the ingredients are all-natural, and it’s glycerin-free and paraben-free. Glycerin can be irritating when used anally and some people have concerns about parabens and safety, making this is an excellent option.

If you want a lube with a little more cushioning, give Please Gel Lubricant a try. The thicker texture makes sure it stays in place and it’s great for folks who are more sensitive or who like an in-and-out motion. But don’t worry- unlike some thicker lubricants, Please Gel is still very slippery. Like Please Cream, this one is glycerin- and paraben-free and it’s safe to use with silicone toys. If your prostate massage is a warm-up to pegging or intercourse, start off with the Cream and then switch to the Gel to get the best of both worlds.

Both Please Cream and Gel come in different sizes, so you can see what you think before stocking up. And the single-use packets are great for traveling since you don’t have to carry a whole bottle. (They’re airport security-friendly, too!)

If you want long-lasting and cushioning, Wet Synergy is a fantastic choice. It’s a blend of water-based and silicone ingredients, which makes it easy to clean and incredibly long-lasting. It’s thick enough to be really comfortable, while being slippery enough to allow for all kinds of massage fun. One of the best things about Wet Synergy is that you get the incredible experience of a silicone lubricant without any difficulty with cleanup. A shower, or even wiping up with a damp washcloth, takes care of it. And since it’s a thicker formula, it stays right where you put it.

If you’re planning on using a silicone toy after your massage fun, you have two choices. You can cover your toy with a condom, or you can do a spot test. Put a little Synergy on the underside of the base and let it sit for five minutes before wiping it off. If there’s a sticky or raised spot, you have an incompatible toy. Some reviewers have reported that high-quality silicone toys, like those made by Vixen, Tantus, and Fun Factory are fine with Synergy, but be sure to check yours, just in case.

Once you have the perfect lubricant, there are lots of ways to enjoy prostate massage. Whether you’re just starting out or you’re looking for some new tricks to drive your guy wild, we have lots of suggestions in our book. Pick up your copy at Good Vibrations or on Amazon and see for yourself how much fun you can have!

A Big Thanks To Our Amazing Sponsors

We’re really excited to get the word out about prostate play and we couldn’t do it without our fantastic sponsors. They’re as dedicated as we are to helping you have the best sex possible and they make some of the best toys and other products for prostate pleasure and pegging. Working with them is truly an honor.

Aneros is the original maker of the hands-free prostate massage toy. Originally designed as a medical device for men who had certain prostate health issues, their product was quickly discovered to provide intense pleasure that nothing else had done before. The MGX Classic is a perfect one to start with. And if you’re ready to ramp up, try the Vice or the Helix Syn. Whether you use them solo or with a partner, they’ll give you a ride you won’t forget!

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If there’s one thing that everyone needs for anal play, it’s a high quality lubricant. Finding the right one can take a little experimentation, since everyone’s a bit different, but trust me- it’ll make your prostate play a lot more fun. A lot of people like silicone lubes because they’re so slippery and long-lasting. Wet Platinum is a great one to try. If you want something with a bit more cushioning, try Wet Uranus, available in silicone and water-based formulas. Or give Synergy a try. Part silicone for extra slipperiness, and part water-based for easy cleanup. It’s the best of both worlds!

If pegging is in your plans, you’ll want a dildo from Vixen Creations. They come in lots of sizes, shapes, and colors and since they’re made from body-safe silicone, they’re hypoallergenic, non-porous, and easy to clean. Just wash with soap and water and you’re good to go. Want to bump it up a notch? After washing it, put it in boiling water for five minutes or the top rack of a dishwasher. And if you want a super-realistic toy, check out their VixSkin products. They have a firmer core and a softer surface layer to give that real-as-life feel. No other dildo comes close!

Of course, you’ll also want a harness for your pegging fun and nobody makes them as sexy as SpareParts HardWear! Unlike some of the more utilitarian harnesses, these are as gorgeous as they are functional. The Joque gives you amazing control when you play. The Sasha Couture brings a sexy femme look to your strap-on fun. And the Tomboi Brief is incredibly comfortable, with a pull-on design to make you look suave and sleek. The attention to detail makes it clear that the folks at SpareParts know what they’re doing. Their harnesses are amazing and will make you feel as sexy as you look.

Whether you’re new to prostate fun or you’re an aficionado, get the most out of your adventures with these toys. They’re sure to put a big smile on your face!

We Had a Great Time At Our Launch Party At Good Vibrations!

Our book launch at Good Vibrations last night was a perfect way to get our tour off to a great start! We had over 40 people show up, which just goes to show how much prostate play is getting folks as excited as we are about it.

Aislinn & I started off talking about the book, sharing some stories about her inspiration to create it and how we ended up working together. We had plenty of fun anecdotes from our surveys and interviews, including some surprising discoveries. And of course, we had plenty to say about how prostate massage and pegging can enhance your sex life, whether you’re doing it solo or with a partner.

But it was when we opened it to Q&A that things really got hot. We fielded questions about everything from how to introduce the idea to a partner, to what differences we found between gay men and heterosexual men when it comes to prostate fun, to how to tell when you’re massaging it correctly (hint: “stroke, don’t poke”), to whether Kegel exercises can be helpful. It’s always lots of fun to geek out with Aislinn, especially for the Good Vibrations crowd. They had so many great questions!

I have to say that it was a real thrill to get to sign books, too. The book only arrived in the store a few days ago, so this was our very first time (other than the copy I gave to my sweetie). And seeing so many people who were looking forward to going home and trying out some of our tips was amazing!

If you missed us last night, come to our second launch party at Good Vibrations Oakland. Here’s the info:

Good Vibrations Oakland
3219 Lakeshore Ave.
February 6, 6:30-8:30pm

We’d love to see you there! And if you’re not in the San Francisco area, we’ll be hitting the road. Between us, Aislinn & I will be bringing prostate pleasure to every major city in the US and lots of smaller towns, too. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, or Google+ for updates, or check out our event page. So far, we’re booked for Boston, Portland OR, Seattle, San Francisco, Baltimore, San Rafael CA, Santa Cruz, and San Diego, with lots more in the works. If you’d like to have us come to your town, get in touch and we’ll see what we can set up.

Our Book Has Arrived!

I’m thrilled to announce that The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure has arrived!

After talking with over 200 men and their partners, asking urologists and medical experts for feedback, finding the best tips and toys for prostate fun, and more conversation about how to describe the many techniques we  heard about, Aislinn and I are incredibly excited and proud to see our book in print. The folks at Cleis Press have all been amazing to work with- their input and suggestions helped us write a remarkable book. You can pick up your own copy at sex-positive toy stores like Good Vibrations, as well as

We’re both looking forward to the launch parties on January 31 at Good Vibrations Valencia St. and February 6 at Good Vibrations Oakland. After that, we’ll be traveling across the country, giving workshops and helping more people discover how much fun prostate play can be! Here are some of our upcoming events:

Feb 10: Pegging at Good Vibrations Brookline MA

Feb 10: Hitting the Spot: Prostate Play & G-spot Pleasure at the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health, Pawtucket RI

Feb 28 The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure at SheBop, Portland, OR

March 3 The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure at Babeland Seattle

March 18 The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure at Sugar, Baltimore MD

March 26 Pegging 101 at the SF Citadel, San Francisco

We’ll also be doing a special event at Catalyst in March and we’re planning more workshops and signings in Seattle, LA, San Diego, Las Vegas, and then across the US! Follow us on twitter or facebook to keep up on all of our travels!

And if you want to find some excellent toys for prostate play, check out our sponsors: Good Vibrations, Aneros, SpareParts HardWear, Wet Lubricants, and Vixen Creations. If you’re looking for an amazing ride, these are the folks who have the goodies to put a smile on your face.

Wish us luck as we get our tour on the road and be sure to come say hi when we’re in your town!