We get a lot of folks asking us for tips to make pegging and anal intercourse work better for prostate play. Once you have your toys, lubricant, and other goodies, and you have your partner is all warmed up and ready to go, it’s time to figure out which positions you want to try. Of course, each combination of people will need to experiment a bit since successful sex positions are partly determined by size, flexibility, strength, and other factors. But here are a five of my favorite positions.
1) Face to face
This is one of the more popular pegging positions for a lot of people. Being able to see your partner’s face can be a lot of fun, and it keeps everyone’s hands available for penis stimulation. It usually works better if the receiver has his hips on a pillow to lift them up a bit because it gives easier access. It’s also good to put a pillow or two under his head. That makes it more comfortable, and curving the spine in a gentle C-shape can make the prostate easier to reach.
Have him raise his knees to his chest and support them in his hands to help relax the pelvic muscles and straighten out the curves of the rectum to give you a straight shot. You can also hold them up for him, like in the picture, to give a little extra support. Try it with his knees closer together or further apart. The more he can relax into the experience, the more fun you can both have!
2) Elbow and knees
If you like rear entry, put him on his elbows and knees, rather than hands and knees. That keeps the pressure off of his wrists, so he’ll last longer. And anal sex often works better if his hips are higher than his shoulders, so that’s another plus. You can grab his hips to control the depth, you can let him do the moving, or both!
Try having him move his knees closer together to raise him up or further apart to lower him down so you can get exactly the right angle. Aim the curve of your dildo downward towards his navel or it’ll miss his prostate. This is one big advantage dildos have over penises- you can rotate them to the best position. When he gets tired, slip a Liberator Wedge under him and keep on going.
3) Standing & bent over
Another fun variation on rear entry is to have him standing on the floor, bent over the bed or couch or kitchen table. Just like hands and knees, he can move his feet to raise and lower himself. And since he has the support of the surface under him, he can rest his body and let you take over.
Some guys have tight hamstring muscles, which can make this position a challenge. Roll up a towel and put it under his heels. When your heels are higher than your toes, it makes it easier to move your hips, which is one reason high heels can look so sexy. Of course, if you both enjoy having him wear high heels, that works just as well. But it’s not necessary, since the towel will do the trick.
4) Cowboy
Want a fun variation on face-to-face? Lie back and have him straddle you with his knees on the bed. In this position, he has total control over the angle, depth, and speed so you can enjoy the show.
Here’s a fun trick- have him slide all the way down (or at least, as far as he enjoys) and instead of moving up and down, he can swivel his hips from front to back, from side to side, or in circles. Your dildo or penis will massage his prostate with each move and he can try different speeds and directions to find the ones he likes most. This is a great way for you to take a break if you’ve been thrusting pretty hard. (Pegging is also great motivation for doing pilates. Just saying.)
5) On his side
This one can be a little tricky, but it’s worth it. He lies on his side on the bed and brings his upper knee to his chest. Both his hip and knee are bent at 90 degrees. Put a pillow under his knee, and straddle his lower leg. It won’t work for all folks- if he’s a lot bigger than you, you might have trouble reaching. But it’s super relaxing for him and it’s often a good choice for men with injuries or other mobility limitations.
So there you have it. Five great positions for pegging and anal intercourse. We have a lot more suggestions and tips in our book, so if you want to make pegging even more fun, grab a copy and see what fun you can get up to!
Charlie
I'm a writer, blogger, teacher, workshop facilitator, sex & relationship coach, and a certified somatic sex educator. I teach workshops and seminars on many different sexuality topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, many different sexual practices, gender & masculinity, and sexual politics. Contact me for more information, to arrange a speaking engagement, or to find out how I can help you create an amazing sex life.
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